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The Amygdala is our biological centurion. When confronted with danger it sends a command to our body to fight or flee. The hippocampus records experiences as facts while the Amygdala assigns the emotional content to these experiences. Therefore, it is mainly responsible for learned fear responses such as anger, avoidance, defensiveness, depression, post-traumatic stress disorder, anxiety and phobias.
The Amygdala starts forming immediately after the heart’s first beat. It stores all the memories of our life in the womb, the trauma of the birth process and also the joys and fears of our early years. After the age of three our hippocampus matures and we no longer have access to the memories of the first 3 years of our lives that are stored in the Amygdala.
What happens to the negative memories of the Amygdala? They become our individual nightmare, the invisible conditioning of all our actions, the blind spot of our lives, the unknown reason why we do what we do even when we do not know why we do it.
The Amygdala bypasses all of our intelligence and rational systems and acts, in our name, on its own. This gives the experience of “I” and “not-I” when addressing Sabotage and Survival Programs, when no matter how good our intentions are, there seems to be another “I” that takes over the control and stops us from achieving our Goals.
When we clear the negative impact of these Amygdala memories, we can dissolve our conditioning and delete these programs that we are not consciously running but that are running us.
We are all connected to other people on an energetic level via energetic cords. Negative Cords are ‘the ties that bind’ inappropriately.
Negative Cords are made when there is an emotional attachment with, to or from another person to meet our, or their, needs. Although the cord may appear to be a good idea, the link is often based on fear and/or self-limiting beliefs. As such they usually compromise our energy system in some way, so we need to remove these negative energetic cord(s).
One of the reasons negative cords cause problems is that they can be formed at any time during our existence, linking one body to another, one mind to another, one soul to another in any combination of body/mind/soul. Unfortunately, in most cases they are not dissolved with the passage of time; we have to deliberately sever them. Cutting these cords can free us to move on with our lives.
Carl Jung called it the “Divine Child”, other other psychotherapists call it the “True Self” and Charles Whitfield called it the “Child Within”. We all have an Inner Child. This is where our feelings live, our emotional self. We experience feelings like joy, sadness, anger, fear, or affection from within the meaning we assigned to them when we were just a few years old.
All the experiences and feelings of the little child and adolescent we used to be, still, decades later, make us struggle with emotional traumas, chronic anxiety and irrational behaviour. Or, because of those early experiences, we repeat debilitating patterns such as addiction, depression, troubled relationships and chronic dissatisfaction.
The wounds our Inner Child received can, and do, continue to contaminate our adult lives. It is the Inner Child who feels fear, panic, terror, rage, deserted, insignificant, confusion, hopelessness, emptiness or victimised, and in need of love and nurturing, NOT the adult.
The unconscious does not work in a linear time frame. Therefore it is possible to have our adult-self (who knows exactly what the child-self needed) meet our Inner Child and through guidance, understanding and love give it ‘re-parenting’ to heal the childhood hurt and pain.
Healing the emotional wounds of our Inner Child will give us back the freedom to be responsible, integrated adults who can make choices, rather than being run by programs or fears that were installed in our youth.
Whether you think you can or you think you can’t; chances are you are right. Henry Ford
Part of knowing yourself is understanding your beliefs. The difficulty is that most beliefs are unconscious. They have been accepted without ever having been critically examined.
These beliefs create your experience of reality. What if these beliefs are in opposition to what you’re actually trying to accomplish? What if they no longer serve you? The Law of Attraction states that you will attract to yourself those experiences that match your beliefs. Therefore you will never be or have more than you believe you are worth or deserve.
Wouldn’t it be useful to eliminate these limiting beliefs? Remember, you are not your beliefs. You are a divine spiritual being, so why hold onto anything that is preventing you from realizing this truth?
The aim of this procedure is to identify those unconscious beliefs and release them, change old thought processes that no longer serve us and replace the negative beliefs with positive beliefs.
Whether you think you can or you think you can’t; chances are you are right. - Henry Ford
Part of knowing yourself is understanding your beliefs. The difficulty is that most beliefs are unconscious. They have been accepted without ever having been critically examined.
These beliefs create your experience of reality. What if these beliefs are in opposition to what you’re actually trying to accomplish? What if they no longer serve you? The Law of Attraction states that you will attract to yourself those experiences that match your beliefs. Therefore you will never be or have more than you believe you are worth or deserve.
Wouldn’t it be useful to eliminate these limiting beliefs? Remember, you are not your beliefs. You are a divine spiritual being, so why hold onto anything that is preventing you from realizing this truth?
The aim of this procedure is to identify those unconscious beliefs and release them, change old thought processes that no longer serve us and replace the negative beliefs with positive beliefs.
“I have been through some terrible things in my life…… some of which actually happened.” – Mark Twain
Phobias (which are classed as an anxiety disorder), are an unreasonable, overwhelming and persistent fear of an object, situation or place. This excessive fear or anxiety is without any rational basis and is normally related to a harmless object or situation.
It is possible for an individual to develop a phobia over virtually anything. Most people understand perfectly well how unrealistic and ridiculous their fear is but they are powerless to override their initial panic reaction.
1 in 10 people have a phobia that is significant enough to disrupt their lives. Very few people actually seek treatment for their phobias. The reasons for this may be that they feel foolish, embarrassed and ashamed. Alternatively, they believe it can’t be treated, due to the past ineffectiveness of traditional medical and psychiatric help which used very long desensitization processes or long term medications so as to live with and accept their phobia.
Thankfully, the pioneering work of people like Dr Richard Bandler (Neuro-Linguistic Programming) and Dr Roger Callahan (Thought Field Therapy) has changed these limiting traditional views. We incorporate, with enormous gratitude for their permission, some of their work in our IH protocol for clearing Phobias.
Our Phobia Protocol is a single session, success-guaranteed procedure.
Nobody can go back and start a new beginning, but anyone can start today and make a new ending. – Maria Robinson
Emotional bruising refers to the lasting damage caused by any form of abuse—physical, sexual, verbal, or non-verbal—that leaves deep emotional scars affecting a person’s present life. It erodes self-worth, independence, and confidence, often through patterns of manipulation, control, intimidation, shaming, or constant criticism. Over time, the abused person may come to believe they deserve the mistreatment or that they are the problem.
The short-term effects of emotional bruising can include feelings of helplessness, worthlessness, anxiety, fear, shame, guilt, depression, and even suicidal tendencies. Long-term effects often run deeper, leading to low self-esteem, distrust, emotional instability, dependence on the abuser, withdrawal, substance abuse, chronic emotional pain, and recurring suicidal thoughts. Unlike physical injuries, which eventually heal, emotional wounds penetrate to the deepest parts of a person and can silently shape their entire way of being.
The purpose of the protocol is to help clients clear emotional bruising, empowering them to reclaim self-worth, establish healthy boundaries, and step into the future with confidence as their true, magnificent selves. This process can also address self-directed harm, such as negative self-talk, self-abuse, or other destructive behaviors.
Every family passes down unique beliefs and behavioural “programs” about areas such as personal worth, behaviour, education, health, wealth, religion, and more. These are often inherited through generations, but can also originate directly from parents’ own life experiences. Such programs shape a child’s values, moral character, worldview, and sense of what is expected of them. Since parents and grandparents serve as primary role models, children mainly learn through observing, mirroring, and copying their behaviour.
In early childhood, especially before age seven, children are in highly receptive brain states (Delta and then Theta), meaning they absorb experiences as unquestioned truths that form the foundation of their identity. This early programming continues to influence them throughout life. While some programs are positive, others can be damaging, manifesting as low self-esteem, limiting beliefs, fears, self-sabotage, or distorted views of trust, love, relationships, health, wealth, power, and spirituality.
Clearing these negative generational programs can free clients from inherited patterns that hold them back, allowing them to live more balanced, empowered, and fulfilling lives. In some cases, this process may also release the impact of these negative programs across the entire family line—past, present, and future—creating healing beyond the individual.
Survival programs are programs that the body runs as part of its fight/flight response. Many of them, however, are redundant, left over from a past situation that no longer applies. They are compensations and/or adaptations for a situation that no longer exists. There is a pay-off/secondary gain that needs to be met. As such, they not only represent an energy drain on the body but also can undermine personal growth and development.
In dealing with Survival Programs we aim to find what the program is, and what the pay-off/secondary gain is. We then work with the client to provide alternative means of achieving this pay-off/secondary gain, as without this the desired changes probably won’t last because the unconscious will still want to run the old program ‘for your survival’.
Age recessing allows an individual to access earlier memories, emotions, and thought patterns that may still be influencing their present life. By revisiting these earlier states, people can process unresolved trauma, heal emotional wounds, and release limiting beliefs that were formed in childhood.
One of the main benefits of age regression is that it helps uncover the root causes of present difficulties by linking them to formative childhood experiences. Often, behaviours and emotional responses in adulthood are shaped by unprocessed events from early years, and regression provides a way to identify and address these influences.
It also allows the safe reprocessing of painful events within a supportive environment. In this state, the “inner child” can finally receive the understanding, compassion, or protection that was missing at the time of the original experience. This re-experiencing, when guided carefully, can be deeply healing.
Another benefit is the strengthening of self-compassion and self-acceptance. By reconnecting the adult self with earlier, more vulnerable parts of their identity, individuals often develop a greater sense of kindness toward themselves, reducing patterns of self-blame and criticism.
Age regression can also provide opportunities for “re-parenting.” This means consciously replacing negative programming with healthier beliefs and coping strategies, allowing the person to create a more nurturing inner dialogue and a stronger foundation for personal growth.
In short, age regression bridges the past and present, offering a pathway to heal old wounds that continue to shape emotions, behaviours, and relationships. Through this process, individuals can reclaim balance, resilience, and a renewed sense of wholeness.
Incongruent beliefs refer to thoughts, values, or attitudes that conflict with one another within a person’s mind. When two beliefs are incompatible, they create inner tension because both cannot fully coexist without causing discomfort or contradiction.
For example, someone might believe “I am worthy of love” on a conscious level, but hold a deeper, unconscious belief of “I am not good enough.” These opposing beliefs clash and create an inner struggle. This can lead to feelings of confusion, self-sabotage, anxiety, or difficulty making decisions, because part of the person is pulled in one direction while another part resists.
Incongruent beliefs are often tied to Carl Rogers’ concept of incongruence, where a mismatch exists between a person’s self-concept (how they see themselves) and their lived experience or internal reality. They can also overlap with cognitive dissonance, the discomfort felt when one’s actions or beliefs do not align.
Addressing incongruent beliefs in therapy is important, because these hidden conflicts often fuel low self-esteem, stress, and unhealthy patterns of behaviour. By bringing the conflicting beliefs into awareness, challenging the unhelpful ones, and integrating more supportive beliefs, people can reduce inner conflict and live with greater clarity, authenticity, and peace.
In a stressful situation, the fight or flight responses are intended to prepare the body for a physical reaction. Yet in today’s society, this is often inappropriate; the result is that we do not burn off the stress response hormones, leaving a cocktail of undispersed chemicals in our blood which in the long term leads, amongst other things, to a compromised immune system. Stress can then become pathological and lead to cardiac, digestive, immune, or mental disorders.
In theory, this process operates as a feedback loop that will close down the Hypothalamus-Pituitary-Adrenal cycle when the stressor has been removed or dealt with. However, chronic stress disrupts the smooth running of this cycle, principally because chronic stress dulls the Hypothalamus and its sensitivity to the message to stop releasing the Corticotrophin-releasing hormone (CRH).
The aim of this protocol is to clear the effects of accumulated stress, and raise our ability to cope with future stress, by aiming to get the stress related endocrine glands working at optimal levels. It is common that once the stress has been cleared symptoms like depression, insomnia, anxiety, insulin resistance, food sensitivities/allergies, ulcers, high blood pressure, eczema, fibromyalgia, CFS/ME, etc. disappear.
Transformation begins with awareness—recognising old patterns, unresolved wounds, or limiting beliefs and refers to the deep, internal change that occurs when a person shifts their thoughts, beliefs, emotions, or behaviours in a way that creates lasting growth and healing. The aim of this process is focussed on releasing what no longer serves and replacing it with healthier, more adaptive ways of thinking and being.
The transformation process is beneficial because it helps people move from states of fear, pain, or limitation toward greater clarity, empowerment, and wholeness. Ultimately, transformation allows individuals to let go of an old way of living and embrace a new, more fulfilling version of themselves.
Sometimes, personal development and healing are held back by vows made in the past that still carry spiritual and energetic weight. A common example is marriage vows. With so many marriages ending in divorce, the formal relationship may be over, but the energetic and spiritual vow of commitment may still remain. These lingering vows can create invisible ties that prevent people from truly moving forward in their lives.
Many clients describe this struggle, saying things like, “I thought I dealt with the memories or issues around him/her,” yet the same person or associated experiences continue to resurface as stressors. This is because, at a deeper level, the vow still binds them energetically, even if consciously they believe they have let go.
Such redundant vows act like blocks, restricting freedom, clarity, and the ability to fully embrace new opportunities or relationships. Releasing these vows is often essential for healing, as it clears outdated energetic contracts and restores a person’s capacity to grow, expand, and live in alignment with their true potential.
The Root Cause of an issue or problem is the underlying source or origin of a person’s emotional pain, dysfunctional behaviour, or limiting belief. Rather than being just the surface symptoms (like anxiety, depression, or self-sabotage), the root cause is often found in earlier life experiences, unresolved trauma, unmet needs, or deeply ingrained negative beliefs about oneself or the world. For example, someone’s fear of abandonment in adult relationships might trace back to childhood experiences of neglect or inconsistent caregiving.
Finding the root cause in therapy is highly beneficial because it allows true and lasting healing. When only the surface symptoms are treated, the problem often reappears in new forms. By uncovering the original source, therapy helps individuals understand why they think, feel, or behave the way they do. This awareness can reduce self-blame, bring clarity, and create space for healthier coping mechanisms. It also makes it possible to reframe past experiences, release old emotional pain, and replace destructive patterns with supportive, life-affirming beliefs and behaviours.
In short, identifying the root cause transforms therapy from symptom management into deep healing. It empowers people to break free from cycles that may have controlled their lives for years and to move forward with greater self-awareness, resilience, and authenticity.
Whether or not we are the creators of our reality, one thing no one can argue is that we do create our experience of that reality by the choices we make from moment to moment.
Regardless of what is going on in our lives right now, we have two choices: We can diminish the quality of our lives, to the extent that we may live inferior lives that make us feel that we have lost our personal power. Or we can enhance the quality of every experience, to give us lives of excellence and let us live the lives our souls intended. This makes us feel fulfilled, in control and knowing that we have the power within us to handle any situation that might come our way.
This protocol is about guiding our clients to re-connect with their personal power, so that they can make choices from a place of inner strength, and live their true potential. When we act from a place of empowerment and worthiness, we focus on the positive and therefore we will love the life we’re in.
A technique used in Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP), anchoring is the process of creating an association between a specific stimulus (such as a touch, word, sound, or gesture) and a particular emotional state. Once this connection is established, the stimulus can be used later to “trigger” or bring back that desired state on demand. The idea comes from classical conditioning (like Pavlov’s dogs, who salivated when they heard a bell that had been linked to food), but in NLP it is applied intentionally to human thoughts and emotions.
For example, if a person is guided to recall a powerful memory of confidence while squeezing their thumb and finger together, that physical movement becomes linked to the feeling of confidence. Later, whenever they repeat that same movement, the brain recalls and reactivates the confident state. Anchors can be positive (confidence, calmness, joy) or negative (fear, anxiety, sadness), and therapy often focuses on deliberately creating and strengthening positive anchors while breaking negative ones.
The benefits of anchoring in therapy include:
In short, anchoring allows people to reprogram their responses to life events, replacing automatic negative reactions with empowering ones. It’s a simple yet powerful technique for building resilience and confidence, and it helps bridge the gap between therapeutic insights and everyday situations.
The Hara Point is a concept borrowed from martial arts. The Hara is considered the center of a person’s physical, emotional, and spiritual energy.
In therapy and personal development, the hara point is used as a focal point for grounding, stability, and self-awareness.
Benefits of working with the hara point in therapy include:
We teach a simple technique to focus on the Hara Point that allows for emotional regulation, healing of past trauma, and the building of inner resilience, making it a powerful tool for personal transformation.
Silencing the critical voice is about quieting the replayed dialogue that constantly judges, criticizes, or undermines a person. This “critical voice” is often formed from early experiences, such as parental criticism, societal pressures, or past trauma, and can manifest as self-blame, self-doubt, perfectionism, or negative self-talk, eroding self-esteem and reinforcing limiting beliefs.
The benefits of silencing the critical voice include:
Ultimately, silencing the critical voice enables individuals to step into their authentic selves, free from the constant internal sabotage that can hold them back, and supports lasting psychological and emotional growth.
The Step Into The New You exercise is designed to help a person move from old, limiting patterns into a healthier, more empowered version of themselves. The exercise helps clients embody the traits, behaviours, and mindset of the “future self” they want to become.
Benefits of this exercise in therapy include:
In short, the Step Into The New You exercise provides a structured way for clients to practice transformation psychologically and emotionally, giving them a tangible sense of empowerment that carries into real life.
The Spinning the Feelings exercise is a technique designed to help individuals process and release intense or unwanted emotions in a safe and controlled way. The process helps the brain and body detach from the intensity of the emotion and reframe it.
Benefits of the Spinning the Feelings exercise include:
In short, this exercise helps people move from being controlled by their emotions to managing and transforming them, making it easier to think clearly, act effectively, and maintain emotional balance in everyday life.
The Method Actor Exercise is a technique designed to help individuals step into different roles or perspectives to explore behaviours, beliefs, and emotions. It is based on the idea that human behaviour can be consciously modelled, like an actor portraying a character, and that by deliberately “trying on” new ways of thinking, feeling, and acting, a person can expand their repertoire of responses and overcome limiting patterns.
Benefits include:
The Method Actor Exercise allows clients to experiment safely with new ways of being, helping them embody their desired traits and integrate them into daily life, much like practicing a role until it becomes natural.
The What If Negative exercise is a technique designed to help clients face the consequences of their actions and the impact it has on them and those around them.
Sometimes going forward in time and having a glimpse of what may be waiting for them if they don’t change their ways is the first realisation of how they are destroying themselves.
This encourages the client to consider alternative outcomes and perspectives by asking “What if…?” questions, allowing them to step out of habitual thought patterns and open up to new positive ways of thinking and behaving.
In essence, the What If exercise helps clients move from fear and limitation to curiosity and possibility, creating a mental environment where change and growth are possible.
The What If exercise is a technique designed to help individuals explore possibilities, challenge limiting beliefs, and reframe fears or doubts. It encourages the client to consider alternative outcomes and perspectives by asking “What if…?” questions, allowing them to step out of habitual thought patterns and open up to new ways of thinking and behaving.
Benefits of the What If exercise in therapy include:
In essence, the What If exercise helps clients move from fear and limitation to curiosity and possibility, creating a mental environment where change and growth are possible.
